Things I Probably Should Stop Saying to My Children

There are things I say to my children probably way too many times thinking they’ll understand. However I never expected them to repeat some of these words. And no I am not talking about swear words. These are just sentences I use often and have made me laugh hearing them from my youngsters, but also reminded me they probably heard it far too many times and perhaps I need to be a better parent.

“Can’t you see I’m busy right now?”

I have said this usually whilst making dinner, making glasses of juice that they have asked me to make and then get asked to do something right now such as look at them doing this cool karate move or find a missing Duplo block that they need right now or they’ll die or something. I am not very good at multi-tasking at the best of times so two things is hard for me, three things? Nope, I’m sorry but gonna have to wait. But today whilst emptying the dishwasher with my son I asked him to put a pot away that I had dried. His response was “can’t you see I’m busy right now?”. He was busy putting a spoon away in the slowest possible time ever. I didn’t know whether to be angry, laugh or be embarrassed. I mean it was cheeky of him to say but also hilarious. And yet also sad because he clearly hears me say it all too often. But his facial expression when saying it just tipped me into laughter mode.

“I’m working at the moment”

Okay I don’t have a job, working is used for when I’m writing a blog post, answering an email or on the phone to someone important. So yeah perhaps cheeky of me to say in the first place but found it an easy way to explain that I’m doing something important and need to be left alone for a moment. Today my son was trying to build something with Lego and his sister kept asking him for his help. He huffed and said “I’m working at the moment!” and after a while he said “Well I guess I’m not working any more!”. Now that last one I can’t say I’ve ever said that, or at least not said such a thing in a very long time. This was all because she wanted a balloon she could not reach but every time he got it for her she would let go of it again and found it funny as hell. As did I because it was like watching a mini version of myself. I haven’t said this in a while though as I just haven’t been able to write anything here in ages and writers block has kicked me down too.

“You have got to be kidding me”

When you have cleaned up the living room and started wiping the dining table down only to hear what sounds like the exact opposite of a clean living room and see all your hard work ruined by a cup of milk all over the carpet you will say “you have got to be kidding me” or similar. This is something I feel I have said too often recently and both my son and daughter have repeated randomly. My son saying it because my youngest has broken something he has built and she often says it because there’s some cool toy being advertised on TV that has caught her eye. Hearing it from a toddler is brilliant though because it’s often said as “oo got to be kidding be” which is too darn cute.

So have you ever said anything that your children have repeated and found funny?

Real Nappy Week 2016

It’s Real Nappy Week everybody! For some of you who may not know the history of this blog many years ago I was offered the chance to test out a cloth nappy brand that was due to come to the United Kingdom and they wanted a parent who used disposable nappies on their baby to try it out and get their opinion. I was that parent and my son was the baby and you can still read that same review on my blog.

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I read it now and can see what a total newbie I was to cloth nappies. Since then I have run a nappy library, I have campaigned for supermarkets to bring reusable nappies in to their stores and part of their Baby & Toddler Events and they actually listened (might I add Boots and Aldi have since joined in) and I’ve made friends within the cloth nappy community. My first step in to the real nappy world was over 5 years ago! And so much has happened. And as it took me a while to learn what I have learnt I figured I should least help out so if you are interested in giving cloth nappies a try then you won’t be confused and lost as I was back then!

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Drying Time
You can tumble dry on low some cloth nappies, however this may affect the PUL (which is the breathable waterproof fabric used in most nappies) over time. Do you have an outdoor area for drying or an airer? Certain fabrics take longer to dry such as bamboo, whilst microfibre dries out very quickly.

Heavy Wetter?
Is your child a heavy wetter or pretty average for a child their age? If your baby is a pee monster then you’ll need something that is thirsty such as hemp or organic cotton. If your child isn’t much of a wee machine you could get away with microfibre.

Systems
This is where it can get tricky. You can get all sorts of nappy systems. If your child is going to nursery perhaps you want something easy like a pocket nappy or all-in-one for no hassle. Or perhaps like the idea of wraps where you can re-use the wrap two or three times as long as it’s dry and clean by simply adding fresh inserts to the wrap each change. There’s hybrids, two-in-ones and so much more to look in to. It really is up to what works for you and your baby.

Price Tag
Whilst they make seem expensive for something they will poo and pee in on a day to day basis it works out much cheaper in the long run, specially as you can sell them on or keep for another child. There are different nappy brands for different budgets. Bummis and Daisybirds are simple nappies that are budget friendly, whilst Bumgenius and gNappies are a little bit more on the expensive side.

Try Before You Buy
There’s over 100 nappy libraries and nappy advisers around the country and many stockists of reusable nappies also offer advice, some have trial kits as well. If you want to see where your nearest nappy library is check out this very useful map. If you aren’t near one then feel free to speak to them on Facebook and I’m sure they’ll help you out in the best way possible.

Good luck on your real nappy journey!

Joining The Single Mother’s Club

I always looked at single parents in amazement. How on earth do they make things work? How do they afford the basics of living? And those with more than one child… I mean I have two and even in a relationship I was struggling to deal with them both. The thought of being a single mother of two children totally freaked me out. So when I became one I must admit I was scared. I truly didn’t think I was a strong enough person to look after two dependants, balance the books and keep a house. I couldn’t do it beforehand so no way I could on my own.

Somehow I have been able to. There are moments (specially during the Easter holiday) where the children have driven me up and down the wall, but my son is enjoying school, he’s never late, my daughter is starting nursery for the first time in a few days time and the house doesn’t look like a child-like confetti bomb blew up in it. I haven’t stepped on a toy car or Duplo in weeks! Admittedly I have stepped on a few bits of Lego in my son’s room, but we’re tackling that. Mostly by finding it under his bed instead.

I’m feeling better as well. Though I do have moments of anxiety when trying to figure out whether I can pay for certain things or if I can afford to get some new clothes or wait til next month. I think that’s a mixture of learning to do things on my own for the first time and my mental illness trying to get to me. My main worry lately has been about my son’s birthday. Just spent a what is normally a weeks worth of food shopping just to feed people for a single day, plus a cake. Something I had not considered until a week ago when I was planning what food I would need to get, where from, delivery time and of course the cake.

But my biggest problem is lack of adult conversation. I have my parents thankfully but there’s some things I can’t talk to them about, like video games and the music I like. Typing to people only does so much, it’s nice to actually use my voice once in a while to talk to someone who isn’t going to say the word “poop” 50 times per day. Hopefully when my daughter gets in to nursery and settles down I can actually talk and meet people here.

Any way this is more an update. I did just buy a tent for my son and I to go back to camping so hopefully I’ll be blogging about future camping trips soon!

Vita Coco Coconut Oil #SwearbyIt

So most people I bet are going to be writing beautiful recipes that use the Vita Coco Coconut Oil and that is where I laugh in their faces because… why waste something that has so many great uses!

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Nappy Rash Cream
Sudocrem is in pretty much every parents’ bathrooms or nursery and it’s a nightmare to remove from clothes, carpet and if your baby covers themselves in it then you get the joy of rushing them into a bath and cleaning that mess up. What have you ever tried coconut oil for nappy rash? You see as a cloth nappy user I cannot use sudocrem because it creates a barrier (which is also why you find it so hard to remove from clothing) and stopping the reusable nappy doing its job. Coconut oil is a natural and non-chemical nappy rash treatment and it’s great for sensitive skin like a newborn baby.

Massages
I suffer some back problems and something that is good for your skin and great for gicing great massages is coconut oil. Get some on your hands, gently rub them together to warm it up and voila, perfect oil for giving your partner a massage. It’s also anti-bacterial!

Shave Your Legs
The usual stuff you buy can get expensive and is also filled with an assortment of chemicals. You can easily just use some coconut oil, rub it on your legs and you’ll be able to smoothly shave them! It’ll also leave your skin looking great and more hydrated, so give it a go!

Cold Sore Treatment
Suffer from cold sores and find yourself buying an arrange of stuff to fight them off? Whilst it won’t get rid of them, coconut oil is anti-bacterial and will help clear it up if you place it on the area as it begins to form. Do this a few times a day and you should see the cold sore disappear a lot quicker then before.

Soothe Dry Hands
If you suffer from dry hands just rub a bit of coconut oil on to your hands. Some people will keep a pot of coconut oil by their kitchen sink and after washing dishes they’ll rub coconut oil on their hands. In fact in general it’s a great moisturiser!

So those are my “recipes”. I know they aren’t real recipes but I want to show that coconut oil on it’s own is amazing stuff! Seriously, buy yourself a big tub of it and you’ll see save yourself so much money and your skin will look way better too! Enjoy!

This recipe is an entry into the #Swearbyit challenge with Vita Coco. Find more great coconut oil recipes and tips on using coconut oil at www.swearbyit.com